Aristotle: made contributions to logic, rhetoric, the sciences, mathematics, metaphysics, ethics, friendship and politics. Plato, more mathematically oriented with his theory of forms, taught Aristotle but the latter favored the sciences. We remember Plato and Socrates, but Aristotle was more influential.
Philosophy of Broken Hearts: Ancient Greek philosophers wrote about relationships, ethics, and what it means to pursue the good life. More recent philosophy has emphasized the theory of knowledge. Rowlands returns to the ancient question: what to do when a relationship breaks your heart?
Pack Friendship and Feelings. Rowlands applies Aristotle's definition of loving friendship, philia, to the love of the human--or wolf--pack. But Rowlands' concept is more demanding since it involves being willing to do the unthinkable in harsh circumstances.
Love Has Many Faces: Aristotle's discusion of friendship, philia, is classic and helpful but doesn't plumb the depths and demands of love of a friend, as Rowlands argues. The love of friendship is rewarding but can take us to the depths of Hell itself as friends suffer and die.
What's Lost When We Die? We need the concepts of desire, goal and project to make sense of what a dying person loses. Those refer to the future but are experienced in the present, they are states we have. Death means those states in the present are lost, so death is a genuine loss in the present.
(158).
Time's Arrow: Our moments defer to a past we cannot change and a future of uncertain duration that might shatter our dreams. Apes plan, deceive, and calculate, stranded in the present. Time's arrow, which inevitably will be interrupted mid-flight, is at once fascinating and terrifying.
Slide Show:The Costs of Love
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Do the slide show and video before reading the Introduction.
Fixing a Broken Heart (12 min., first 6). Counselor Guy Winch tells us that "hope can be incredibly destructive when your heart is broken." What evidence is there of this in Rowland's account of Brenin's illness?
When Rowlands writes "This broke my heart, and I think a little piece of it will always remain broken," he sounds like he could use Guy Winch's counseling.
He put Brenin through a lot of pain in a quest that would almost surely end in death and Rowlands realized "Brenin must have felt utterly alone, betrayed, abandoned and even brutalized by the pack that had been his life" (177). Rowlands' forlorn hope put Brenin through a "season in Hell."
Larry's Intro Chs. 7-8: The Genius of Hell and Time's Arrow
If your best friend has a lengthy illness and dies a painful death, it is disturbing--no matter how many feet the friend has.
Rowlands uses this dispiriting trajectory to do some rabbit hunting of the familiar philosophical topics love and friendship. Indeed philosophy means "love of wisdom," so it has been interested in love from the beginning:
Our sense of loyalty to each other now outstripped our sense of justice to others. We had become a pack ... And those outside our nation didn't matter to us ... (142).
Southern France is mountainous and colorful, with quaint seaside towns astride the blue beauty of the Mediterranean. Open fields, restaurants, shops and museums everywhere, with the salty air freshening everything.
Just what can friendship mean with a friend not built to deceive or calculate? Rowland's heartbreak was that his attempt to save Brenin's life was impossible for Brenin to understand.
For a wolf, friends never cause each other pain.
Illness and a Broken Heart
Southern France seemed like an unparalleled opportunity--lots of time to write for Rowlands and lots of space to run for his three canines in tow. Mountains, sea, quaint villages, and wonderful food.
But Brenin needed a vet, a good one:
Brenin had a highly antibiotic resistant form of E. coli similar ... The upshot was that he was almost certainly going to die. (175)
This tragedy raised the classical questions of love, friendship and suffering. Given the suffering inflicted on Brenin, Rowlands worried Brenin would conclude he was no longer loved: "this broke my heart and I think a little piece of it will always remain broken" (177).
Love is the Path to the Deepest Hell
Aristotle on Friendship (7 minutes). Classical distinctions on different kinds of friendships.
What kind of love did Rowlands have for Brenin (he was just an animal after all)?
Is it a feeling?
As discussed on p. 182, Rowlands applies Aristotle's definition of loving friendship, philia, as the love of family, the love of the pack. Rowlands writes, "I loved Brenin as a brother. And this love--this philia--is not a feeling of any sort, though it can generate feelings."
(1) traditional view of Hell
a place where those not saved would be tortured in pain.
The weak rarely have contracts--they are exploited without them.
(2) Rowland's viewof Hell
a place where a person must brutalize the one most loved.
Rowlands wanted to believe that those who love can never go to Hell. He learned that love is the path to the deepest Hell.
Why does he reverse the classical view of Hell which he despises so much in favor of even a more haunting definition? Challenge: What world religion would comment, "We told you so!"
The classical vision is that the hateful people go to Hell, and the loving to the good place. He found that his outsized love for Brenin took him to a worst Hell of imagining that Brenin concluded Rowlands no longer loved him.
The road to Hell for Rowlands was paved with love, as Buddhists could have warned him: attachment brings pain.
Love Has Many Faces: The Harshness of Philia
(1) feelings can result from philia but philia is not a feeling.
(2) there are many kinds of feelings stemming from philia, depending on the context.
(3)philia is the love originating in your pack--the determination to do something for members of your pack even though you really don't want to.
Philia can be more harsh, more demanding than Aristotle understood. The will is essential to the expression of philia.
What Do We Lose When We Die?
What did Brenin lose when he died?
Is death different for canines and people?
A. Watts Accepting Death(4 min.)
Wittgenstein: death is the limit of a life; it is not something that occurs in life.
Epicurus: "death is nothing to us. When we exist, death is not; and when death exists, we are not."
Consciousness ends with death so there is neither pleasure nor pain. The fear of death arises from the belief that in death, there is awareness of death.
Question: what is wrong with the argument?
Option 1 : death harms because it steals possibilities.
Rebuttal: too many possibilities (some good, many bad).
We need the concepts of desire, goals and projects since all are future-oriented. A future is something we possess now.
Option 2: it is only some of our possibilties that are important.
Refinement: we hope these come true.
Why is death bad for the one dying?
We need the concepts of desire, goal and project since they are all future directed, a future we possess in the present.
Distinction: Kinds of Desires
Implicit: desires whose satisfaction takes time.
Explicit: arranging life around idea of what is desired in the future (distinctive to people). As a result, we think explicit is superior to the first (which is why you are attending a university). People with explicit desire have a more robust future sense and more to lose in dying. The reason we anticipate and fear death in a way that animals do not.
Kant: time's metaphors are all spatial--such as flight of an arrow.
Death harms any creature by stopping the arrow of desire in mid-flight.
Death most harms those who arrows embody explicit desires.
Conclusion: Death deprives us of the future we have now--states that bind us toward a desirable future.
Meaning of Life
Heidegger: we are beings-toward-the-future, yet beings-toward-death.
Time is a line (we have great ambivalence toward the line)
Meaning originates in the arrow of desire, goals, projects.
The line reminds us our arrows will be cut-off mid-flight.
"Eternal Recurrence" (6 min.) is perhaps Nietzsche's most famous phrase. Put it in your words.
Nietzsche was ill much of his life, with debilitating pain. After he moved to Sils Maria in Switzerland, he framed his famous notion of the eternal recurrence. He wrote that we live so that we would be happy to relive our choices and experiences, including our suffering, into the "beauty of the whole."
We should construct our lives so we are our "own heroes." To get there, we should decide who we want to be, how we want to live, then love our choices so passionately we would be willing to live each moment over and over again. From a life of great pain to one of the most remarkable affirmations of the value of life, via philosophy.
"We can never enjoy the moment for what it is in itself [like a wolf] because for us the moment is never what it is in inself. The moment is endlessly deferred both forwards and backwards. What counts for us now is constituted by our memories of what has gone before and our expectations of things yet to come" (207)
Moment of the present is deferred through time and is unreal in a way never true for a wolf. Apes plan and deceive, wolves relish the moment.
Some insights:
"Wolves and dogs pass Nietzsche's test in a way people rarely do"
"People try to find happiness in the new and different so as to deviate from time's arrow"
"The human search for happiness is regressive and futile"
"At the end of every line is nevermore"
"Time's arrow both fascinates and horrifies us"
"Our understanding of time is our damnation"
"Always, I have carried my death with me"
Questions and Explorations
Part 1
1. This is the word Aristotle used to name the love of family and of the pack (though he wouldn't have thought of a pack as Rowlands does). Challenge: this American city makes use of this word since it is the "city of brotherly love."
Philia.
Philadelphia.
2. How does Rowlands redefine the traditional view of hell (which he despises) and why?
The traditional view is that those who are hateful are not saved and go to everlasting hell.
Given his experience with Brenin, he redefines Hell as where you go when you inflict suffering on the one you love in the vain attempt to save their life.
Remember, Rowlands wanted to believe that those who love will never go to Hell. He reached the conclusion that those who genuinely love are the best candidates for Hell.
3. How does Rowlands deepen Aristotle's definition of philia?
Philia is "brotherly love," just as Aristotle wrote, but it can be more demanding than Aristotle understood. It involves the willingness to love to the point of inflicting suffering, in the hope the suffering is the route to recovering from illness.
4. Exploration: Are there any parallels between Nietzsche ("Meaning of Life" above) and Rowlands in terms of suffering? How about A. Watts ("What Do We Lose When We Die" above) and his view of death?
"I've Loved You So Long" (6 min.)
1. What parallels are there to Rowlands and the death of Brenin?
Juliette was a physician and diagnosed her son's terminal disease.
She assisted his escape from pain by administering a lethal dose, then lived with the guilt of having "murdered" her own son. Being an intimate part of the death of someone you love ferociously is excruciating, as both Juliette and Rowlands discovered.
2: Why is the relationship between death and love so complex?
We value our relationship with the loved one suffering. We share the suffering, but when the suffering overwhelms, we want to assist the escape from suffering. It can result in the ultimate, most costly, expression of philia.
Rowlands suffered vicariously through Brenin while Nietzsche suffered more directly. But both recognized that suffering is inevitably, perhaps essentially, a part of seeing the meaning in life.
Watts saw death as an inevitable part of the experience of life and to resist it is to resist the natural order of things. Rowlands, though British, is more typically American in viewing death as an enemy to be avoided.
Watts comments at the outset that "there isn't really anything radically wrong with getting sick or dying." Given the pain that he saw Brenin go through, Rowlands would disagree. Watts welcomes the natural order of things, Rowlands sometimes needs a fifth of whiskey to cope.
View the film clip at right and answer the two questions. Set-up: why Juliette was in prison is revealed slowly: that she was in prison for 15 years, that her crime was murder, that the victim was her 6-year-old son, and last the reason why she killed him.
5. What concepts does Rowlands add that accounts for our future-oriented awareness such that the future is something we can lose at death? How does this challenge the traditional view of Epicurus?
We need the concepts of desire, goals and projects since all are future-oriented. Since future is something we possess now, that is what we lose at the moment of death.
Brenin lost less since he had very limited desires and goals and presumably no projects. Not "damned" by time's arrow, Brenin was free to live each moment in a circular way. Brenin the Reaper at right looks very cool, maybe even should appear in a werewolf movie, but in life he paid the Grim Reaper little mind.
Epicurus claimed "death is nothing to us." Rowlands argues that the ancient philosopher gets it wrong because it does mean something to us just because each moment is the link betwen past and future, with its desires, goals and projects.
6. Challenge: Given these concepts, how does Rowlands think he has an explanation for what you lose when you die?
Since the future with our desires, goals and projects are defined in terms we can have now, there is something that is lost at the moment of death by the person who dies. The future can be present in a powerful way for a person that it cannot be for a wolf.
If you die this afternoon, you lose your desired goal of writing the world's best philosophy paper for PHI 110!
Part 2
1.Challenge: why is it not surprising that Kant thought in terms of spatial metaphors which thinking about time?
Time seems to have three dimensions, of course, past, present and future, and we seem to move through them as an airplane moves through the sky. He thought in terms of the flight of the arrow.
So it should not be suprising that he thinks of the pursuit of basic pleasure to be associated with ages 18-30. That does not mean you should fall in the same trap. He was lucky to get another job after Alabama.
2. What is the contradiction did Heidegger identify that seems to drive us, in terms of time and death?
Heidegger illuminates in a new way the taking-as structure that he takes to be the essence of human existence. People areessentially finite. This finitude explains why the phenomenon of taking-as is an essential characteristic of our existence.
We are caught between the contradiction of being-toward-the-future, on one hand, and being-toward-death on the other. The only way to get closer to the future we want is to get closer to the death we dread.
3. Exploration: What is Rowlands doing in this important chapter that illustrates "chasing rabbits" philosophically? Why is such an ability important to your future?
"Why is Philosophy Like Rabbit Hunting?" (10 min.)
1. What do philosophy and rabbit hunting have in common?
Wolves chase rabbits for a meal. Philosophers chase ideas to reach clarity about some issue or concept.
In each case, it is difficult work, but the outcome is important.
2: Why does the rabbit in this chase so often successfully elude the wolves?
Rabbits can run up to 60 kilometers per hour and can turn abruptly. The wolves have quite a challenge on their hands. The rabbit is faster so they must use strategy if they are to eat.
So it is with philosophy as well.
3: What is the relationship between employing the full pack to get the "hare" and the doing of philosophy?
The first hunt failed since the hare avoided just a couple of wolves. When the full pack was employed, they were successful.
Philosophy done in community is more likely to be successful than that done in isolation. Conversation, debate, dialectic means the rabbit hunt will be more successful.
Rowlands is trying to do better than those who went before in making sense of his own experience, what would drive him to drinking large volumes of whiskey and dreaming about recently departed, beloved wolves.
Chasing rabbits metaphorically is what will keep you employed in the future in a world saturated by both turbulence and artificial intelligence. You need to be able to hunt rabbits--so to speak--if you are going to feed yourself.
Please do the video in the sidebar at right and answer those questions.
4. People deceive, wolves do not, but what is the difference between people and wolves in terms of how they view time?
The wolf lives each moment in the moment, not exercised by plans for tomorrow or regrets about yesterday. The wolf's view is circular rather than linear.
Rowlands observes that we are never finally in the moment because each moment is "endlessly deferred in terms of both the past and the future." Apes plan, deceive, calculate, stranded in the present between the past and the future. Wolves relish the moment, each moment, reminding apes of what it is simply to relish being alive in the moment.
Apes chase the rabbits of forgiveness for the past and the things that might be.
5. Challenge: Why would Rowlands make the puzzling comment, "Our understanding of time is our damnation"? What is so damning about time's arrow?
We fret about time's arrows as each moment passes, mindful that our time is limited and that the time of all those we love is limited. We are far more exercised about time and the future than other non-human animals such as wolves.
As he puts it, we carry our deaths within us, mindful of the diminishing days.
Preoccupation with death can eviscerate the moment so we cannot enjoy hunting rabbits, metaphorically speaking.
6. Nietzsche is puzzling, outrageous, not respected in some philosophy circles, yet he is one of the most widely read philosophers. How come?
Nietzsche famously wrote of "the death of God" and strove to dethrone traditional ways of thinking about what it means to be human, both philosophically and religiously. Some interpreters of Nietzsche believe he simply rejected philosophical reasoning, replacing it wth a literary exploration of the human condition that was fundamentally pessimistic and unhelpful.
Other interpreters say he was engaged in a positive program to affirm life, and so he called for a radical, naturalist rethinking of what it means to be human.
On either interpretation, it is widely agreed that he represents a major challenge to conventional, modern thinking, one that was welcomed, at various times, by a wide range of writers, from Nazis to New-Age leftists, each claiming his radical challenge for their own projects.